I am usually a snob, but I should know better, especially being a Domme. People aren’t ever what they seem.

You would think in a rocker subculture they would not judge someone or ignore some one who was different because they are different from the outside world themselves…ha ha. I walked around unnoticed and even when I was social very few people would talk to Me. Tonight I was accidentally in conservative cognito.

As a prodomme in the “fetish” and goth/industrial scenes I meet prudes dressed as pervs everyday…and I meet conservative men with so much metal in their genitals and fetishes that most never would concieve of. I definitely should be used to this and not so entertained.

I even go to play parties where people think they are so kinky because they like spankings and bondage…and in my experience most vanilla people slap each other on the ass and pretend that it is totally different than BDSM, or that a foot fetishist is something wierd yet a breast man is some how not equally a fetishist. I got news for you…no matter where you are it is all the same.

If I had worn fetish clothes many of the same people would not have talked to Me , but then some would have also prejudged Me to be a slut and tried to take Me home… and that is no different than prejudging Me as a mousy prude.

Otherwise I did have a chat and spend a short bit with Tim Polecoat and MIss Conduct since they were familiar faces…and I met 2 people that weren’t too judgemental to speak to some one that looked out of place.. and those are the type of people worth talking to anyway.

The next time you think some one is a perv by the way they dress…you are probably wrong…and the next time you think you know someone as conservative…you might be surprised…it’s beautiful.

Infact it is one of the secrets of domination…people are so prejudice to image that you can manipulate someone by just dressing the part. If you look like the fantasy you can get them in subspace sooner than if you looked casual…unless their fantasy is to roleplay an experience that is based on the vanilla world.

If you are a very skilled Domme it is wonderful, but if you look like you aren’t kept, or just rolled out of bed the submissive will be harder to reach…and if you have mediocre skill, but look the part and talk a good game you can make as good an experience or better than the accomplished Domme who is too lazy to care about their appearance. (And truth be told a mediocre domme who can verbally work a submissive can get reach a slave better than an accomplished domme who is technically skilled yet doesn’t talk at all!)

That is the beauty of image, and the stupidity of any scene be it rocker, punk, goth or even preppy!
A intelligent person doesn’t define themself by their prefered image or taste in music (or any other thing associated with a stereotype). And a truly intelligent person uses their image to get what they want from the posers who don’t explore anything outside their genre, or is just dressed for themself which means their clothing changes with their mood and is sometimes inappropriate for a scene.

Tonight I was even amused that the DJ wouldn’t play his Cinderella album because it was cheesy. That was why I wanted to hear it… anyone that takes themselves serious is usually phoney…and if you can find humour in it or even appreciate the nastalgic value of such cheese then I believe you are authentically into the scene you are in, and I also know that at home you probably have musioc that you are ashamed to admit to!

My friends that limit themselves to one style of dress, or one type of scene usually get annoyed by My diversity and I get annoyed by their closeminded ness and it prevents us from being as close as we could be (uh, Craig!).