Many dream of the perfect slave/owner relationship…one of devotion, disciple, function and feeling owned body mind and soul…
This is a beautiful fantasy, but the reality can easily become unhealthy co-dependancy. In a safe, sane, and consensual ideal this isn’t exactly sane.

Where is this line? Can one have a relationship that fulfills the fantasy and definition of the modern slave/owner relationship without co-dependancy?

It is understandable that a live-in slave might give up the outside world for his place as a slave…but what of those that keep a day job, their own home, their vanilla relations essential to functioning in the outside world.

When I left New Orleans I became aware for the first time that one of My slaves dedication to Me had gone a bit too far. When I went to his house for the first time ever it was the day I was leaving for LA…I was appauled by the disarray and disrepair. He had been in the middle of working on his house when he came to Me. When I commented about how it was awful and asked why he allowed his house to be as such he said,”I am always with you, and doing things for you.” This is terribly unhealthy. But in the slave/owner relationship how do you prevent this from happening, yet still be slave and owner.

Our relationship wasn’t formal and high protocol. I knew that he needed a friend as much if not more than a he needed a formal ownership…and I can only imagine that if I had been interested in a more formal relationship with him that this case would have been worse on him when I left.

I had known that he had no other life than Me, his work, his co-workers, and his cats…but had I known how he neglected his home to serve Me I would have been a bit disturbed.

As a slave owners/dominant we have a responsibility to push our slaves to better themselves not just in their service as a slave, but healthier physically, as well as mentally.

I am looking for a stable of dedicated slaves in LA…but I don’t think co-dependancy is healthy. Be it a friend, lover or slave…co-dependancy ends up taking more than it gives. It becomes emotionally taxing.

Is there a way to keep balance? In other types of relationships it is easy to identify co-depenency pretty early…but with slavery there is such a fine line.

Mistress Genevieve
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I am usually a snob, but I should know better, especially being a Domme. People aren’t ever what they seem.

You would think in a rocker subculture they would not judge someone or ignore some one who was different because they are different from the outside world themselves…ha ha. I walked around unnoticed and even when I was social very few people would talk to Me. Tonight I was accidentally in conservative cognito.

As a prodomme in the “fetish” and goth/industrial scenes I meet prudes dressed as pervs everyday…and I meet conservative men with so much metal in their genitals and fetishes that most never would concieve of. I definitely should be used to this and not so entertained.

I even go to play parties where people think they are so kinky because they like spankings and bondage…and in my experience most vanilla people slap each other on the ass and pretend that it is totally different than BDSM, or that a foot fetishist is something wierd yet a breast man is some how not equally a fetishist. I got news for you…no matter where you are it is all the same.

If I had worn fetish clothes many of the same people would not have talked to Me , but then some would have also prejudged Me to be a slut and tried to take Me home… and that is no different than prejudging Me as a mousy prude.

Otherwise I did have a chat and spend a short bit with Tim Polecoat and MIss Conduct since they were familiar faces…and I met 2 people that weren’t too judgemental to speak to some one that looked out of place.. and those are the type of people worth talking to anyway.

The next time you think some one is a perv by the way they dress…you are probably wrong…and the next time you think you know someone as conservative…you might be surprised…it’s beautiful.

Infact it is one of the secrets of domination…people are so prejudice to image that you can manipulate someone by just dressing the part. If you look like the fantasy you can get them in subspace sooner than if you looked casual…unless their fantasy is to roleplay an experience that is based on the vanilla world.

If you are a very skilled Domme it is wonderful, but if you look like you aren’t kept, or just rolled out of bed the submissive will be harder to reach…and if you have mediocre skill, but look the part and talk a good game you can make as good an experience or better than the accomplished Domme who is too lazy to care about their appearance. (And truth be told a mediocre domme who can verbally work a submissive can get reach a slave better than an accomplished domme who is technically skilled yet doesn’t talk at all!)

That is the beauty of image, and the stupidity of any scene be it rocker, punk, goth or even preppy!
A intelligent person doesn’t define themself by their prefered image or taste in music (or any other thing associated with a stereotype). And a truly intelligent person uses their image to get what they want from the posers who don’t explore anything outside their genre, or is just dressed for themself which means their clothing changes with their mood and is sometimes inappropriate for a scene.

Tonight I was even amused that the DJ wouldn’t play his Cinderella album because it was cheesy. That was why I wanted to hear it… anyone that takes themselves serious is usually phoney…and if you can find humour in it or even appreciate the nastalgic value of such cheese then I believe you are authentically into the scene you are in, and I also know that at home you probably have musioc that you are ashamed to admit to!

My friends that limit themselves to one style of dress, or one type of scene usually get annoyed by My diversity and I get annoyed by their closeminded ness and it prevents us from being as close as we could be (uh, Craig!).