Bound to Please

By Mistress Genevieve

BDSM being a power exchange first and foremost it takes establishing roles to start a scene, and for many dominance over a submissive is fully felt when pinned down in some way, shape or form…Bondage.

Bondage is found through out media, childhood play, art, and history. There is something so sexually stimulating about seeing the sculpt and curvature of the human form pushed to new limits.

As a top:
Bondage, personally, makes me feel like a spider and a fly. I find great delight in telling the slave just how stuck they are, and how I can, and will have my way with them, and they won’t get away

As a submissive:
Loss of the ability to move or control your own body is enough to establish who is on top and who is on bottom with most submissives, but some bondage slaves are tricky bastards. They like to test and push their dominants. These, often referred to as “smart-assed subs” or “smart-assed-masochists” (SAS or SAM), are usually the type to try to wriggle, writhe and squirm out of any type of bondage you put them in. Some won’t try to test your bondage, and others won’t give up trying. Depends on the dominant/submissive relationship, and your previous negotiations of consent as to whether you will put up with the later. Personally, I highly respect the gift of submission, and a smart ass is more likely to be put in time-out, unless I was in the mood to have a power struggle when we started to play. The “SAS/SAM” is usually the same type that intentionally tries to piss off a top to provoke them to slap them, or otherwise punish them…the worst thing you could do to that type is ignore them, they thrive on punishment, and pushing a tops buttons.

Safety First: Before you even consider bondage, what types you want to play with, who you want to play with, and what role you want to play…both tops and bottoms should have safety first in mind. Be prepared to cut any form of restraint in an emergency. Keep “bandage” scissors present, easily located. Never bind someone in a way that could strangle him or her if his or her weight went dead. Never leave a bound submissive unattended. Be clear on your play partner’s medical history (diabetics and people with other circulatory irregularities should be particularly paid close attention to when in bondage).

There are so many different types of bondage. I couldn’t possibly go into them all but the most common are leather, ropes and mental bondage.

Leather: The scent, look and feel of leather is enough for some subs to start to hit subspace. It is rather expensive, but easy for the most inexperienced player to use. It does require proper care. Leather should regularly be cleaned and conditioned.

Rope: Though this is one of the least expensive and readily accessible methods of bondage, it should usually be done by a more experienced top. There are some simple hitches and knots for the “average Joe”, but the wrong type of rope can cause nerve damage. The wrong thickness and tension can cause circulatory problems. And even the right rope used incorrectly can be very dangerous. Once you get used to ropes you may find that your ropes get more and more intricate in design, and tops should be familiar with the body, safety, their sub’s health, and their environment to conduct a safe session.

Mummification: Plastic wrap mummification is one of the most simple and inexpensive methods of bondage (though there are many other forms of mummification). Being positioned on the back is one of the safest positions, and when a person is mummified lying down, the possibilities are endless. It is difficult to make plastic wrap too tight. Wrapping from the shoulders to the ankles is simple for the most novice of dominants. The one thing that one has to look out for is balance. A sub whose legs are bound too close together often needs support, and when moving a mummified submissive you must be sure to support them, and guide them. With out use of the arms, a submissive trying to re-position them can easily stumble about and hit their head, or take a serious fall. You can also cut open holes in the plastic wrap to access the part of the body you want to play with. Cutting around the breast, they tend to burst through the plastic.

Mental: Mental bondage isn’t enough for many bondage enthusiasts. It is more for the submissive who is into subjugating themselves for a dominants approval, than for a bottom. A submissive in mental bondage maintains a prescribed position, often suffering consequences for any deviation.

Wrestling pins: There are a great many people that like to be over powered physically. A submissive that has been knocked to the ground, and pinned, often with a scissor hold between their Mistress or Masters thighs is often in ecstasy. Not all submissives go for this type of restraint; some prefer a more poised and regal dominant, than the capture of a slave by an Amazon Goddess. These types of restraint can be best delivered by a dominant that has some knowledge of martial arts or wrestling previously. It has nothing to do with size and stature if the dominant knows the right techniques. Because of this, fantasy wrestling is more often role-play…most people aren’t knowledgeable about wrestling and martial arts, but a good tough and tumble, and allowing your top to claim you can be just as fun for most.

Predicament Bondage: It is fun to add an added element of torment to bondage through predicaments. When you place a submissive in bondage (even mental bondage, ex: catholic school discipline of maintaining a position kneeling on rice and holding up dictionaries) and place a strain to keep a position (be it on their toes, or the tension of a pull on their nipple clamps, labia, genitals or any other sensitive focal point of your attention) and force them to stay still or suffer the added torment that you have made this is called a predicament. If the sub doesn’t hold still they force themselves to suffer. If flogging or torturing a sub in this situation they must make a firm will to not move in a way that will further cause them pain.

A great way to start turning your lover on to bondage is to start using sexy lingerie…not just by wearing it, but using your panties as a way to obscure their site, gag them with your underwear after teasing them with them. Take silk stockings, tease them as you take them off, push your lover back and trail the loose stocking along their skin, teasing with the texture, till you have them where you can use the stockings to tie them down. Silk scarves are also another great seductive introduction to bondage. These are not all you can do. Other such ideas to think about are licorice ropes, or candy whips of some sort. These can be fun to eat your way out of later.

In learning more about bondage safety is most important. Local groups often offer Seminars on such subjects. There are many great books to help learn more about how to do it, such as Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook, and Midori’s The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, and most books on the basics of BDSM offer more than enough information to give you a solid start in bondage play…but bondage and dominance starts first in the mind, take it slow, sexy and safely. Don’t rush in and try to start playing beyond your knowledge and experience. A great bondage scene starts in the head of the submissive and dominant, and a safe scene is more important than being fancy with rope.

Mistress Genevieve
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I have had a few friends who have been on Suicide Girls website. I have seen lots of burlesque. I have been in a million strip clubs…
Last night I just wanted to go home or to Big Daddy’s.

Skin is great, but I was praying for a nice firm round ass on stage and none was found. I like a but that looks like you can bite into it and it bounce right back.

Every other burlesque show I have seen has shown a lot of dedication on one or another’s part, a lot of passion, those that could afford to invested a lot of money into their shows, and those that could not invested even more heart…I liked every show I have ever seen under the heading of burlesque…but I found myself wondering when it was going to end.

Ugh, need dinner, about to head to the show…bored so I am writing a quick jot while waiting for my companion for the evening.

I swear…if I had to chose one place on earth, and one thing I would rather be doing more than anything else…it would be sleeping with my 3 kitties in a big warm bed.

I am getting my practice in being the crazy old cat lady…lol.

Are you sick of my cats yet?

After living in my little bubble I am going to Suicide Girls tonight…I have already heard all the lovely drama I missed…damn it makes me dread going out into the world.

So, tonight I make the sign of the 3 monkeys…hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil.

So many messy people all over this city…I swear I have to put my fingers in my ears and go, ” la la la la la la”.

I haven’t even left the house yet and already I am wanting to rush home to a pile of purring cats.

Last night’s show got cancelled.

Tonight is the Suicide Girls Burlesque show…I hope I make it out to see it. I have been a real homebody lately.

I have been hanging out with Lucia and the cats.

It’s funny. When I go to bed, all the cats wait up for me, then climb the ladder to the loft after me, all in a line and fall a sleep in a pile at my feet.

Well, I didn’t think the cats could make it up to the loft, but I woke this morning to my eldest. I looked down the ladder and the 2 black kittens were in tow, and very scared of the last could of rungs. My eldest cat is fearless, and decided to jump from the loft to the futon below, and the kittens deliberated in fear and decided to climb down the ladder.

I am waiting for Lucia to get here. I have to leave soon for rehearsal. My collar bone is killing me, after moving the dungeons around last night, and my sessions I fell asleep waiting for my last session, so I called and canceled. He was one of my regulars and haas done the same to me, so i didn’t see a problem with it.

It has been a very busy week.

I can’t wait to get rehearsal over with. I am just going to use the pieces I did from last Sunday. I don’t care to re pack everything, and my bag is already packed for last week’s line up. That means I have nothing to do for the show till I actually show up, aside from rehearse.

I wish I didn’t have to go to rehearsal. I am in one of my moods where I dread leaving the house. I just want to sit around with the cats and a blanket, and the computer, a book, and some movies. I swear I am going to be one of those old cat ladies.

It was a slow lazy day. I slept in, after staying up all night learning more about photoshop so I can work on an ad.

I re-arranged the whole house. I cleared out most of the first dungeon except a large selection of crops, quirts, and canes, a torture chair, bondage table, and a stock cube.

In each one of my six rooms I have more than what I have seen in over half the dungeons I have been in that claimed to be fully equipped.

Funny, I have seen many dungeons people called fully equipped. One of them was a saw horse, and a mattress with a medical exam table. The equipment had been painted lilac with house paint, and was obviously poor quality and never cleaned or conditioned. The hook on the cieling was unsafe, and open, so a sub could tip toe and slip off of the hook.

What makes a dungeon qualify as fully equipped? I had assumed that all fully equipped dungeons had St. Andrew’s crosses…but I met this one girl from L.A. who said that it was a rare piece in all the dungeons she had played in.

And when will I feel I have what I feel is a complete collection of toys? I am dying for a cathering wheel, a rack, a mummy board, old world coffin, bed of nails and so much more. I lost my states coffin in the move from Houston, as well as my infantalism stuff, a few restraints, paddles, and more.

I know that all these things aren’t necessary for a great scene…you can have a really great scene with a spatula, your fingernails, and an ice cube…just as good a scene, and sometimes better than with a million toys…but I feel I want to offer the most to myself, my slaves, my clients, and the other Mistresses that have been known to rent my dungeon.

So what is the “end all-be all” of dungeons?

What a long day. I thought my last session was going to be a 2 hour, but then he decided he wanted to add another hour. 3 hours and lots of rope bondage isn’t easy on my collar bone.

Friends dropped by afterwards. Vincent stuck around to watch this japanese horror movie. The XBF wanted to hang out, but I have this wierd thing lately where I don’t want to spend too much time around people. I am valuing solitude.

Though I have done really well this week, and my nightmares have stopped, I am still just catching up on everything from the break of my clavical. Ugh.

I think that if it weren’t for the expenses on constantly improving my dungeon, my fetish wardrobe, and the extreem expense of advertising, I would be really living comfy…but I like to look back every few months and see progress on all fronts. Progress in my credits, progress in my learning, progress in my dungeon and wardrobe. Stagnance equals death.

Well, today my new black and blue leather corset came in. Just a week or two I got my new pink satin corset, but haven’t worn it due to breaking my collar bone.

So, let’s see. I have 12 leather corsets is it? Then god knows how many sating and vinyl corsets. I have an uncontrolable fetish for them. I always would look at this re-print of the old Montgomery Wards catalogue from the 1800’s when I was a kid and drool over the childrens corsets, the bustles, all the wonderful exagerations of the female form. I need leather thigh high boots, leather pants leather opera gloves, leather hobble skirts. I have considered entering some of those Miss Leather contests. I won a contest at an S&M ball about 7 years ago and haven’t really entered one since. That was an all vinyl outfit, at the HPEP S&M Ball at Tantra.

I have been taking this time between sessions to actually make it to pay those bills, have a walk, some sushi and some Chia Tea…ah, simple pleasures. And also I am checking out all these fetish clothes, leather, latex, fetish boots, fetish shoes, ballet boots, cosplay costumes. I just love the way it feels to wear a new fetish outfit that I have never worn before. The strong scent of new leather or latex, the slip of lubed latex clothing being put on and the way it feels when you pop and manipulate it into place. And the way the leather warms up and starts to be a part of yoiu, and move with you, only stretching in the right spots till it fits only you.