Fetish Freedom for All

Sex is a wonderful thing, but there are so many toppings, flavors, and many accoutrements that can emphasize sex and increase the pleasure to all five senses. This is what fetishism pertains to.

What is Fetishism? Coming in various degrees, sizes, shapes and forms, fetishism is simply an intense attraction that increases one’s arousal. It is especially considered fetishism if the stimulus is not directly sexual. This is just the basic level of fetishism, but not the extreme.

It is explained in Anatomy and Destiny: A Cultural History of the Human Body by Stephen Kern that there are 4 levels of fetishism.
1. Slight preference exists for certain kinds of sex partners, sexual stimuli or sexual activities. (The term fetish should not be used at this level).
2. A strong preference exists (lowest intensity of fetishism).
3. Specific stimuli are necessary for sexual arousal and sexual performance (moderate intensity of fetishism)
4. Specific stimuli take place of a sex partner (high level of fetishism).

There are many misconceptions about fetishist. You may have been one of the many that believe that all fetishist like latex, leather, PVC, boots, high heels, corsets, pain, bondage and the other basics involved in stereotyping fetishism and sado-masochism.

Though stereotypes exist because in some more visible cases they happen to be accurate, stereotyping is over generalizing and therefore false. There are many fetishists that have no interest in any of the aforementioned stereotyped traits.

Some of the more common fetishes are discretely labeled “breast men”, leg men”, “ass men”, or voyeur. The most common fetish in the fetish community itself is foot fetish. There are also body hair fetishes, high heel fetishes, lingerie fetishes, and so many other fetishes that are common place and widely accepted as normal sexual stimuli by the mainstream.

In my way of thought, which is supported by my experiences over many years, I have come to believe that we all have fetishes of some type and degree.

Some people come to me and find them selves to be “freaks” but I like to turn them on to the “Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices by Brenda Love. This book shows the timid fetishist that not only are they not alone…some of the more unusual fetishes, in fact most of them, are common enough to have received a latin medical term. The book even has further comforted novices, in exposing them to fetishes far beyond their own.

It can be hard to accept yourself as a fetishist and understand that safe, sane and consensual play amongst two adults is perfectly healthy, in a world that is constantly pointing accusing fingers and trying to make you feel guilty for your natural carnal lusts…but just remember, on closer inspection we all have our fetishes, and with the right nurturing we could all easily become kinky.

In closing I would love to leave you with some kinks that you might find quite normal and never thought of as a fetish (borrowed from the Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices)
Acousticophilia-a person aroused by sounds – sounds may be in the form of love songs, verbal abuse, sexual commands, comments in a foreign language, screaming, panting, moaning, groaning, sighing, heavy breathing as well as many other natural sounds people make during sex.
Acrophilia- refers to a person who is sexually aroused by heights. Sky diving and bungy cord jumping are high altitude activities that elevates ones adrenalin. The excitement can be transferred to passion and sex. Both of these activities include a form of bondage, vertigo and suspension.
Agoraphilia- refers to a person who is aroused by being in a public place. People who desire to have sex in their back yard, a park or other exposed area more than likely experience an unusual level of excitement from being outdoors.
Agrexophilia- refers to those who become aroused by the knowledge that others may become aware of or hear their lovemaking.
Chorephilia- refers to people who are sexually aroused by dancing
Chrematistophilia- refers to those who are aroused by being charged for sex or robbed.

There are so many other common place sexual interests and practices that have been accepted by psychology as fetishism and sexual deviance…if you look hard enough you will find yourself amongst the official description of a pervert! The next time you care to be offended by another’s sexual preference, remember someone might be offended by yours.

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Back to Sunday…One of the longest days of my week. I have to write this article (which I am half way done with). I am supposed to return to doing my erotica, so I have to find time to return to all of that also.

“empty” is on his way over to handle the rugs, and I will probably have him handle cleaning the cieling fans also since they desperately need it, and that should be done before rugs. Sean says he is going to oil my hardwood floors this week.

I have to prepare for a dungeon rental today. I also put off packing my clothes for tonight’s performance at Howlin’ Wolf. We aren’t doing the clown skit because Reverend Spooky is in Los Angeles, but I will be doing my I love Lucy tribute.

“napoleon” is coming to Howlin’ Wolf for the show and after he and Sean and I are going out briefly. I am hoping Jeanne will come, but that is the night she usually recovers from the rest of the week.

I have to get up early in the morning and head across town to handle OffBeat.

There is also a lot of work to be done on my site tomorrow, that I haven’t had time over the last couple of days, to complete.

Well, tonight I actually made it to Mistress Nan’s Birthday…I didn’t expect to, but I had a nice time, and stayed longer than I thought I would.

I left as the party broke up. I brought her “family jewels” a book on genital torture…fun fun fun. Mistress Nan is the Head Mistress of the new Orleans Chapter of Club FEM (Females Enslaving Men). I encourage all those would be female dominants to join so we can keep our local chapter. If she gets the support she will find more time for group activities. They have a yahoo group.

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I am also concidering with the people who contact me from Pensacola, and the friends I have there, and the photo shoots I will be doing there, that I am looking to open a small dungeon there and frequent the area, since Mistress Elise is now gone from the area. I don’t intend to move there, just frequent there.

It would be nice to have a dungeon all my own outside of the area of new Orleans, just so I can get away and enjoy the beach when not in session.

You Are Dominant!

If you’re giving out whippings, then this is no surprise to you
But being dominant doesn’t neccisarily mean you are a sadist
You might just take the lead, call out positions, or decide when it’s time for sex
Bottom line: The bedroom is your domain, and anyone who gets with you knows it!

Are You Dominant or Submissive?

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