2003
07.23

Fetish ball Houston September 20th

Lara Paine just wrote me…she says Dare Ware is talking to her about me coming back in September to do the Fetish Ball like I did last year.

This year it will be with Lara and myself co-dominating. I suggested Jacque-Oh for the stage, especially since she is extremely into playing.

I have created a monster. You can’t keep her away from the electricity as a top or a bottom. She wants it all the time. I remember when I was that fresh and new to it. I still am excited and obsessive, but there is a bright eyed wonder when a young pervert suddenly has adventurous play partners and new knowledge and unusual toys. She is a switch which is the best way for her to learn more about submissives, and learn more techniques, and a perspective of why we don’t do certain things and how to better a technique.

We have done some beautiful scenes with her subbing to me. She is a cutie. Bubbly, pretty, and boobs that leave many men dumb-founded. They are hypnotic. We have done scenes for voyeurs and they have gone nuts. She is working out better than almost every person who has worked with me. I think it is more because she doesn’t let ego interfere with learning. Dominant ego is great for image, but you have to have some humility in the begining to allow yourself to admit you are a novice, and need more learning.

No one knows everything, not me, not people that have been doing this 30 years. But many I have encountered that want to be a pro-domme act as if they already know everything when you start them with basics. It is important to do a refresher, and make sure they know safety even in the most mundane and simple acts such as flogging. Just to make sure that what they know is complete…and who knows, they might even have something to share with me, that I can learn from them. Something tyhat escaped my knowledge in the last 15+ years of lifestyle (10 professional).

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  1. No one knows everything, not me, not people that have been doing this 30 years. But many I have encountered that want to be a pro-domme act as if they already know everything when you start them with basics. It is important to do a refresher, and make sure they know safety even in the most mundane and simple acts such as flogging

    ahh yes how familiar these words are…I am still a relative newby to the scene (at 3 years of playing – none professional) I am still completely astounded at the people who tend to parade around and think they know everything. I wonder how they manage to get sessions, how they sleep at night and the thing that puzzles me most is that they haven’t had anyone die on them yet…this sounds dramatic, but I really don’t think it is.

    It isn’t just when you learn some new skill that you need to step back for a while and practise, but everytime you play with a new partner. People, dominants, forget this and it is such a crucial thing.

    Anyway enough from me, just triggered one of my favourite rants…I look forward to hearing all about the Fetish Ball, hopefully there will be pics and stories of what a fabulous time you had!!

    Jeze

  2. damn
    whole lotta things going on during sept!

    i wish i could hit them all!

  3. You should be up here!

    Ms Genevieve! Cirque de Fetiche is gonna be going on the 19-21st and its gonna rock 😉 I want to come to NO maybe just before Mardi Gras next year…think you can round up some naughtiness for us?
    Ms. B

  4. Re: You should be up here!

    Betka, I always am happy to hear from you, I simply must add you to the friends list. I wish you hadn’t moved so far away. I mean, getting to see you in Austin would have been hard enough, but now Portland. I wish we could meet up somewhere and be wicked.

  5. Someday, someday Kumi, you and I will get to meet, wear fabulous clothes, club and cocktails.